National Grandparents Week Kōrero

In acknowledgement of Grandparent’s week (27 October to 1 November 2022), Play Aotearoa would like to share pūrākau (story) and whakataukī (proverbs) that demonstrate the powerful connection between mokopuna (grandchildren) and tūpuna as it relates to te ao Māori (Māori worldview) (1).

The bond between mokopuna and tūpuna is solidified in the kupu (words) describing the concepts. Darren Rewi shares that, “Moko is the facial tattoo, our trademark we wear. Puna is a spring or pool of water within which we see our reflection. Therefore, mokopuna is a reflection of ourselves (2).” Before colonisation, Māori parenting took place within the wider whānau (family unit). Tūpuna were typically responsible for the day-to-day care of their mokopuna and were entrusted with passing on ancestral knowledge while the parents tended to important mahi (work) that required more physical vigour. These practices have continued after colonisation, but have been greatly altered due to the influence of the nuclear-style, European family structure and the pressures of Western society.

Rangimārie Te Turuki Arikirangi Rose Pere, a revered educationalist, spiritual leader, Māori language advocate, academic, and conservationist shared the following saying demonstrating the strong ties between mokopuna and tūpuna:

He taonga te mokopuna, ka noho mai hoki te mokopuna hei puna mo te tipuna ka whakaaro tātou tātou ka noho mai te mokopuna hei tā moko mo te tipuna anā he tino taonga rā tōna. He mokopuna rā tātou, he mokopuna anā hoki ngā tipuna.

This has been translated as, “A grandchild is very precious, a fountain for ancestral knowledge and an everlasting reflection of those who have gone before. We are all grandchildren as are our ancestors (3).”

A beautiful description of te ao Māori that further demonstrates these connections comes through the metaphor of the harakeke plant as whānau. The rito (new shoot) is the baby or child. It is protectively surrounded by the awhi rito (parent fronds or mātua) who sit immediately next to the rito and the outside leaves who represent the tūpuna (grandparents and ancestors). We see the importance of the relationship between the child, parent, and grandparent in this representation of whānau. The mokopuna are nurtured and protected by the surrounding rau (fronds) whose role is to nourish – physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally – the tamariki (children). As the older rau die, they return to the roots of the harakeke to nourish future generations. As the plant grows, the young rau take up their position surrounding the rito and take on the role of awhi rito to the new growth, similarly to how our tamariki grow into matua and then tupuna. Each has a role to play in ensuring the health of the whānau, and this is done by staying close together as a unit and supporting one another in the journey of life.

Many pūrākau speak to the special relationship of mokopuna and tūpuna. The pūrākau of Whaitiri, a female atua and the personification of thunder, speaks to the connection between her and her mokopuna. Whaitiri marries Kaitangata and gives birth to a son named Hema. Hema would father Whaitiri’s mokopuna, Tāwhaki and Kairihi, making Whaitiri a tupuna wahine (grandmother).

In one version of the pūrākau of Whaitiri, she becomes blind after eating ika (fish) infused with tapu (sacredness) that was served to her by Kaitangata as revenge for committing cruel acts against his whānau. It is her mokopuna who free her from blindness. One day, Tāwhaki and Kairihi set off to climb into the realm of Rangi (sky father, heavens). Whaitiri sits blindly at the foot of the ascent to the sky guarding the vines and counting kūmara (sweet potato) and taro, her main food source. Tāwhaki and Kairihi decide to play a trick on their tupuna and remove some kūmara and taro to throw off her count. Once she realises what is happening, they reveal themselves to her and are able to restore her sight. In return, she advises them of the best way to climb into the heavens. Kairihi takes off first climbing the aka taepa (hanging vine) which are unstable. He is blown by the winds and falls to his death. Tāwhaki climbs the aka matua (parent vine) while reciting karakia (chants) and is successful in reaching the tenth rangi.

In this pūrākau we see the playful mokopuna tricking their tupuna, but then helping to revive her sight. Their tupuna then offers guidance on how to proceed with their difficult journey. As you celebrate Grandparents Week, what pūrākau, whakataukī, and other lessons might you have to share on the role and bond of mokopuna and tūpuna? How do these bonds and relationships strengthen our whānua and hāpori (community)? What adventures have you had with your mokopuna or tūpuna, and how has tākaro (play) helped you to pass on the traditions of your ancestors?

1. Note there are many kupu (words) that denote the role of a grandparent or elder. Here are a few common ones (note that different dialects or regions may have their own kupu): Tāua – grandmother, old woman, grandparent, old man; Kuia – elderly woman, grandmother, female elder; Pōua – grandfather; Koroua – elderly man, old man, elder, grandfather, granduncle; Koro – elderly man, grandfather, grandad, grandpa – term of address to an older man; Tīpuna or Tūpuna – grandparents; Tupuna/tipuna wahine – female ancestor, grandmother, great grandmother; Tupuna /tipuna tāne – male ancestor, grandfather, great grandfather, forefather; Kaumātua – elder, elderly man, elderly woman, old man – a person of status within the whānau.
2. Meaning and narrative: A deeper understanding of te reo Māori by Darren Rewi https://taketuia.com/meaning-and-narrative-understanding-te-reo-maori/
3. Cameron, N., Pihama, L., Leatherby, R., & Cameron, A. He Mokopuna He Tupuna: Investigating Māori Views of Childrearing Amongst Iwi in Taranaki. A Report by Tu Tama Wahine o Taranaki Inc to the Lottery Community Sector Research Fund. December 2013. P. 4. http://www.communityresearch.org.nz/wp-content/uploads/formidable/Final-Research-Report-He-Mokopuna-He-Tupuna-Investigating-Traditional-Maori-Views-of-Childrearing-Amongst-Iwi-Within-Taranaki.pdf
4. Ibid.
5. Watson, A. Pā Harakeke as a research model of practice. Aotearoa New Zealand Social Work. 32(3), 30–42. P. 32. https://anzswjournal.nz/anzsw/article/view/767